Are You a Fan of Unsolicited Advice? I'm Not.

Are you a fan of unsolicited advice? I have to say I'm not. People telling me what to do without being asked is not something that I appreciate. In my opinion, it robs people of their chance to find their own way out of problems, and challenges. When we give advice without having been asked for it, we send the message that we know better, and that they are not smart, wise, and capable enough to figure things out on their own. It devalues them, and I'm sure that nobody wants to feel like that. We all have the answers and solutions if we're courageous enough to be ourselves.

I recall sending a message to my friend a few days before she went into hospital to give birth to her baby. I wrote to her that I was available for her if she needed me, but that I wouldn't be telling her what she was supposed to do with HER OWN baby. I was struck by how grateful she was for having written this to her. I guess she felt EMPOWERED instead of being told what to do. It made me think about people feeling angry, resentful, and even ashamed when others treat them like small children who knew nothing. We can be there for friends, family, and colleagues when they need us, but ultimately, it's up to them to find their own way.

That's why I love what I do. I'm not women's guru, telling them what to do. Instead, I'm here for women who want to uncover their own wisdom, and find their own strength. I believe that every woman has the answers she needs inside of her. It's just a matter of having the courage to listen to her own voice.

If you're ever feeling lost, or stuck, remember that you have the power to change your life. You are wise enough, and capable enough, to figure out what you need to do. Trust yourself, and be courageous. You got this!